Happiness Habit 5: Be Merciful

If you want to be happy, be kind to those in need;

it is a sin to despise anyone.

Proverbs 14:21 (TEV)

Do we wanHappiness in a box 1t to be happy?

We often answer this question without thinking about what it truly entails.Happiness is a way of life, it is not something we get out of a box. Therefore, it is a habit we must practice every day.

Practicing mercy provides ample opportunities to cultivate happiness Merciful 2in our lives.

Mercy is defined as the “compassion or forgiveness shown toward someone whom it is within one’s power to punish or harm.”

The world is a broken place; we are all constantly hurting each other. Where we get stuck is when we decide to take revenge into our own hands. We get stuck when we want to hold on to something that we should have let go of in the first place.

The result of that type of mindset is a revolving cycle of bitterness, negativity, and fruitlessness. You hurt me, so I find a way to hurt you even more. Then, you find a way to hurt me even more.

HReady 1ere are a few tips you can start practicing today to awaken the merciful part of you.

  1. Decrease your irritability level – don’t be quick to be impatient with people. Be mindful that there are certain things that may get on your nerves, but maybe a person’s natural tendency.
  2. Be ready to help – don’t turn a blind eye on the needs in your family, schools, churches, and communities.Happiness abounds in your everyday life when you are generous with everything you have.
  3. Give second chances – don’t be quick to cut people off without the effort of having a mutual resolution to problems. Making mistakes are huge components of the human life. So, be willing to forgive and show mercy to those who have wronged you.

Happiness Habit 4: Practice Integrity

Conquering the happiness habit is not for the faint of heart, especially when our culture demands that we focus on what is outside of us rather than what is on the inside.

On the outside, we want to look and sound good. We want to maintain a stellar reputation, securing how we want people to see us.

At the same time, we give very little attention to what is going on on the inside. We don’t seem to care about the person we are becoming.

Practicing integrity forces us to practice wholeness; therefore rendering itIntegrity 4 more difficult to segment our lives to accommodate the many expectations that we insist others to require of us.

We tend to be incongruent when we feel like we have to be a different person in different environments. Then, happiness cannot exist because we are trying to be different everywhere we go. To practice integrity, we have to aim to be ourselves; that is the only way we can be out best.

Seeking wisdom is very important in developing integrity. Wisdom tells us what is right, equipping us in extraordinary ways to practice integrity. By making wisdom part of our arsenals, we will be better prepared to distinguish the voices of the angel on our right shoulder and the voices of the devil on our left.

Here are Integrity 3a few tips you can incorporate in your daily activities to help you practice integrity today and to become a happy person.

  1. Keep your words: do  not make promises you cannot keep. Unkept promises produces bitterness in the people you love.
  2. Do you best at all times. Everything that you do, give it your all. Then, you will not have regrets.
  3. Be yourself with people. Do not try to be anybody else other than yourself. Refuse to wears masks and play games with people.
  4. Treat others like you want to be treated. That means no backbiting and stabbing in the back. Work on uplifting people rather than putting them down. It is not necessary for you to win arguments, so be willing to let some things go.

Happiness Habit 3: Be Generous

Becoming a happy person is not as difficult as it appears. It can actually be fun if you enjoy being generous. That is giving and sharing freely without expecting anything in return.

Our happiness is affected when we keep count of what we give. We expect people to return to us equal or greater to what we have given to them.

What we need to be concerned with is planting the seed of generosity and let God be responsible for the returning aspect of giving.

Here are 10 things you can give generously today.

  1. Say please and thank you.
  2. Give compliments often.Generosity 1
  3. Give your money to people and causes you believe in.
  4. Give your time generously where it matters most.
  5. Have a big heart and be compassionate.
  6. Share all resources generously.
  7. Forgive each fellow human at least 77 x 7.
  8. Give plenty of hugs and kisses.
  9. Lend your ears without passing judgement.
  10. Love covers it all.

Happiness Habit 2: Be Teachable

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On any given day, I have an abundance of opportunities to learn new things in books, through people, and by listening to what’s going on around me.

I don’t know about you, but I never have enough time to learn everything that interest me. The opportunities are ubiquitous, so boredom is rarely an experience I entertain.

In this way I developed an attitude of learning. Just like I learned to do math, I can learn to be happy.

Happiness is something that we learn from our family, friends, and our environments. It is not something you achieve with certain status in life.

To change along with life we have to be teachable.

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Are you teachable?

Which one of the following will help you develop a teachable attitude?

To be teachable…

  1. Observe: Make the practice of observing the people around you. Watch their behaviors, how they speak to each other, the words they use, and their nonverbal behaviors. Sometimes you can learn more about a person just by watching their behavior. You can easily spot genuine happiness and unhappiness.
  2. Be Humble: Realize that you don’t know nearly as much you think you know. Be willing to listen to others. Ask the right questions and listen intentionally. The better you listen, the more you learn.
  3. Appreciate the people in your life: The more appreciation you show for the knowledge, tips, and experiences they share with you, the more encouraged they will be to pour more into you in terms of their time and resources.
  4. Be Available: How can anybody teach you anything if you always have something better to do? Schedule time in your schedule to be teachable, engage with others, and to practice being available to others.
  5. Reflect on learning: Take a bit of time in your schedule to think about the things you’ve learned, how you applied them to your life, the results you experiences in your life and business. Also consider who you learned from and how the learning took place. It might benefit you as well to think about who you would like to sit and talk to for your future learning. Consider how you can be more available to share your knowledge and experience with others.

Happiness Habit 1: Be Thankful

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Is there a secret formula to living a happy life?

So many of us buy into the myth that we have to accumulate certain things to be happy such as a luxury car or home, a high paying job, and certain brands of clothing, furniture, etc.

Things can positively affect our happiness for a short time. It has been suggested that we buy experiences not things, which can help create memories that extends for a longer period of time.

To make happiness a daily experience, we have to be intentional about it.

Throughout the next several days, I will share a number of practices to help you activate happiness on a daily basis.

The first happiness habit is thankfulness.   Thankfulness 3

You have to understand that to be thankful for life, food, shelter, employment, health, and relationships in our lives is a choice. You can be thankful in good times and not so good times.

Authentic happiness is not dependent on your circumstances. Imagine if it did. It would be like a roller coaster.

Some people practice thankfulness by

  • Keeping a journal
  • Meditating on what they are thankful for
  • Writing a list of things they are thankful for daily.
  • Praying

So, activate your happiness today by practicing thankfulness. You will see that you have more than you need and your heart will become bigger with joy.

Building or Destroying: What’s In It For Me?

BefPower of Words 2ore you let a single word come out of your mouth, you better be real careful; you may not know what you’re getting yourself into.

You see, words are seeds. Words are powerful. They have the tendency to multiply and reproduce according to their likeness.

You have the choice to plant them in grounds that will…

  • BUILD

             OR

  • DESTROY

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You understand that your tongue, the instrument that facilitate the speaking of words has the power of life and death.

If you’ve ever wanted to be a superhero, this is the ultimate opportunity. It is also the ultimate opportunity to become the greatest villain.

Read this carefully. “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” In other words, you reap what you sow.

If you sow words of love, you will get love in return.

If you sow words of hatred, you will harvest hate.

If you inspire, you too will be inspired.

If you belittle and humiliate, what do you think you will get back?

So, what’s in it for you?

The quality of your life. What do you want to get more of?

 

When Will You Change?

It is beneficial to look at our lives from time to time and determine whether or not what we’ve been doingRaising Your Standards 1, the people we’ve shared our time with, and the results we’ve become accustomed to are the manifestations we really want in our lives.

If we don’t take time out for reflection, we will continue to repeat the same unproductive actions over and over again.

Reflection allows us to determine what is working and what is not. We can decide to discontinue certain behaviors knowing that we will continue to get the same result every time we utilize them.

You determine how:

  • use your resources

  • people treat you

  • your time is allocated

So, what you allow is what will continue. Make the changes today that will affect the results you get tomorrow.

 

Step into His Goodness

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For the Lord God is a son and a shield;

the Lord gives grace and glory;

no good things does he withhold from

those who walk up rightly.

Psalm 84:11

Many of us have a warped perception of God. We see God as a domineering father figure who is ready to strike us down when we do something wrong. To the contrary, God is the opposite. He is loving, benevolent, generous, and caring. God does not pay us lip service when He says that only He is good. He has given us ample evidence to demonstrate that. He shows us his goodness through nature, the way that he cares for us, and through His Son Jesus Christ.

Furthermore, the evidences for God’s goodness permeate our everyday living. The natural blessings that we take for granted on a daily basis. For example, we take for granted waking up every morning, having good health, and experiencing the seasons of life. God is good enough to give us food when we need to eat, clothes when we-re naked, comfort when we feel afraid, and music to soothe our very soul. God delivers us from everyday troubles. He delivers us through the ups and downs that we go through when we experience life’s trials and challenges.

When we understand the goodness of God and we take it to heart, the Spirit of God will move us to repentance because we often doubt that God is good and that He has a good future for us. Once we have God’s goodness in the right perspective, the mind will be renewed, will have the confidence to pursue a different direction; and as a result, we will begin to see the Holy Spirit change our lives. In addition, when we understand the goodness of God, we will not be surprise when adversity comes. As a matter of fact, we will be excited to take big risks and step out on faith. Deep down we know that God will never ask us to do anything that will hurt us. Everything He asked us to do is to transform us to the likeness of His Son.

Psalm 84:11 is a good example of God’s goodness. “For the Lord God is a sun and shield; the Lord gives grace and glory; no good thing does he withhold from those who walk up rightly.” “The Lord is the sun” – your source of power energy and resources. He’s a shield – your protector. “The Lord gives grace and glory” – your comprehensive source of resources and blessings. “No good thing does he withhold from those who walk up rightly” – if you live your life God’s way, he will make sure that you lack no good thing.

Here is a prayer by Chip Ingram taken from God: As He Longs for You to See Him that will be a blessing to you if you decide to meditate on it.

Oh Lord, full of goodness and mercy, as I look into the

face of Jesus and ponder the goodness of the cross, grant

that I might

repent of my unbelief and ingratitude,

rest in your goodness even in the midst of trials, and

risk trusting you in every area of my life like never before.

I praise you that I live under a friendly sky, that you are for

me, and that I need never be afraid of the future because

you are good!

In Jesus’s name, Amen.

 

 

 

7 Simple Keys to Help You Enjoy Work Every Day Part II

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Work is what you make it. Our attitude determines whether or it work is going to be a place of many blessings or a place of many curses. Understand that what we focus on expand, what we invest in grow, and what we plant, we harvest. Therefore, we must intend to focus on, invest in, and plant the specific benefits we want to enjoy

2. Work hard and cheerfully at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people.” Colossians 3:23

When we understand that we are working not to please people but the Lord, we develop a different perspective toward our place of employment. Any job that we do can become a form of worship, giving thanks for being able to contribute to society by serving others.

3. Develop a new way of thinking about work.

When we develop a new way of thinking about work, we will realize that work is one of the most important places in our lives where we can focus on building our character. It is a place where we can take on tasks and projects to help us test out what we really enjoy doing. Adding on a new skill and learning more about ourselves can be strategic tools for career advancement or change.

4. “Whatever you do, do it with kindness and love”.I Corinthians 16:14

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Everything we do is about people. We cannot escape not working with them one way or another. We are here to serve each other, which is at the core of our existence here on earth. So, loving the people we work with is a tremendous opportunity to share our love and to treat them with kindness. In return, we will enjoy a more pleasant work environment.

5. “If anyone requires you to go one mile, go two miles with him.” Matthew 5:41

When we value and enjoy our work, we make it a point to do more than what is expected of us. We don’t have to be asked. Success does not only come with caring for people. It also comes through proving how valuable we are to the company. So, it should be our intention to exceed expectation as often as possible.

6. If the ax is dull and its edge unsharpened, more strength is needed but skill will bring success. Ecclesiastes 10:10

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“If you want to get ahead, you must fill your head.” Decide to make continual learning part of your every life. Working on improving skills that can potentially help to gain a promotion or an increase in pay can be worthwhile. In this way, we will not have to apply much strength to bring success to our lives.

7. “Commit your work to the Lord, and then your plans will succeed. Proverbs 16:3

It is good to know that we’re never on our own. Our work may be difficult or it may be easy. It does not matter what issues we may be facing at work, knowing who we are working for makes a very big difference. Putting everything in God’s hand is a sure way to grow and achieve success.

7 Simple Keys to Help You Enjoy Work Every Day Part I

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Work is a place the majority of us spend most of our waking hours either loving every minute of it or killing ourselves slowly. It is a place that provides many opportunities to build character, to learn new skills, and to discover the phenomenon of working with others. Above all, that seems to be the hardest part of working.

I don’t know about you but I would rather love every minute of my work than to allow it to ever placidly suck the life out of me. You can begin to incorporate a few simple steps in your daily habits to help you make the most out of work. Here are seven simple keys that can help transform your working life from a boring and insignificant one to an enjoyable and important one.

1. “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart.” Colossians 3:23

Being in the present is a great thing, that includes being enthusiastic about the work you are doing right now. So, WHATEVER you do –making a presentation, taking out the garbage, answering phones, writing the needed reports –put your entire heart (100% +) into it.

Every job is a preparation for the next job. It is an opportunity to develop you in ways you may not be aware of. Luke 16:10-12 states, “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much…If you have not been trustworthy with someone else’s property, who will give you property of your own.”

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It is helpful to keep in mind that is a test of not only your skills but your attitude as well. Your attitude towards life and your work in particular determines your level of enjoyment. A negative attitude that encourages continuous griping and complaining does not facilitate the creation of joyful moments.

Proverbs 12:24 provides that the “diligent find freedom in their work; the lazy are oppressed by work.” One of the ways to facilitate enjoyment in our work is to determine to add value to the organization, its people, and its daily mission. When you feel that you are making a difference, it does something inside you–it makes you feel needed and significant.

You are needed. You are important. You are significant. That is why your work cannot be haphazardly put together. That is why your work cannot remain undone.

So, let’s show some enthusiasm.