My Dream Woke Me Up at 2:40 a.m.

Do you find yourself tossing and turning in bed every morning or maybe be every night?

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It never fails. At certain hours of the morning, I would repeatedly move from side-to-side, on my stomach, and on my back, unable to find a comfortable sleeping position.

Then, I would get up, go to the bathroom, and take a sip of water, just to repeat the cycle. With this pattern, I wasted thousands of hours over the years.

We all have different sleeping habits. I prefer to go to sleep late and get up late. However, over the years, my work did not allow that. So, I go to bed around 10:00 p.m. and wake at at 5:00 a.m.

That is the time programmed into my cellphone. Because waking up early has been a pattern over the years, I no longer need my cellphone. That’s a great thing because I am following Mel Robbins’ advice to keep the cellphone out of my bedroom.

When I had the cellphone in my bedroom, I checked the time every five minutes. It did not make me get up and do something, instead, I became preoccupied with finding different thoughts that could potentially drive me to catch another 15, 30, 45, or even 60 minutes of sleep.

This year, I decided to do something different.

I get out of bed when I am awake. When the tossing and turning pattern starts, I know that it is time to get up and do something productive. This morning, the stove clock read 2:40 a.m.

I count this as a great gift of time. I can do my morning devotion, review my goals, listen to my morning affirmations, exercise, write a blog post, read a chapter of a book, an article, or a blog post. I can do a load of laundry, clean an area in the house, or cook a healthy breakfast for the husband and children.

Truth be told, there is always a task in my mind that I know I need to be doing at that time, but usually I feel too tired, lazy, or unmotivated to do it. So, I would lay there hoping for sleep to rescue me.

Not this morning!

My goals and dreams for this year kept flashing in my mind. It was like watching a video. I got excited.

Since I did not have my cellphone by my bed to deter me from leaving my bed because it was too early, I got up from my bed and proceeded to do the things that mentioned above. This post being a by product of that decision.

It feels so amazing. With this little tweak to my morning routine, I am sure that my life will be unrecognizable by this time next year.

What would your life be like if you decided to get out of bed when your body has had enough sleep for the night?

What task can you get done? What goals can you work on? What dreams can you conjure up? What life can you create?

Get to Know Yourself

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What is your favorite color (s)? Why?

What kind of work do you enjoy doing? Why?

What’s your favorite smell? Why?

What is your dream car?

What kind of food do you enjoy?

Where would you prefer to live? Why? Describe your perfect home.

What are you good at doing? When and how did you discover it? How can you expand on your strengths to achieve your goals?

What is your personality like?

Sometimes answering the most simple questions can help you discover profound things about yourself.

What are some of the questions you ask to get a deeper sense of who you are?

Leave me a comment.

Dump Your Baggage…to Move Forward

We all have baggage. They were given to us in our childhoods by parents, friends, and associates. Later on in life, our spouses and employers give us some more baggage.

Although baggage can be associated with good and bad things that happened to us, the word is mostly used to describe the effects of negative experiences and traumatic events throughout the different stages of life.

Low self-esteem, guilt, fear, pessimism, anger, and the desire to please others are some examples of baggage. We walk around heavily burdened because every choice and decision we make are filtered through our baggage.

The ongoing effect is that of insecurity in everything we do.

Therefore, we continuously behave in unproductive manners and sabotage the plan designed to move us forward.

If we are to have positive changes in our future, we must dump all unnecessary baggage because they will only serve as hurdles in our paths.

You Want Knowledge, Go Get It

Imagine going to college having no idea what you are going to major in. Having absolutely no idea who you will become and what you will do. You see, some people are born knowing who they want to be. Because of that knowledge, they can easily eliminate all the clutter that life brings and focus on what they know to be reflective of where they want to go in life.

I was not one of these people. I wanted to do everything. My transcript is reflective of that frustrating but exhilarating time of my life. Premed, theatre and dance, business, nursing, English, British, Caribbean, and African-American Literature, and criminal justice were some of the areas I dabbled in.

College years were frustrating because I could not make up my mind. I felt like the squirrel in Ice Age that wanted all the acorns but could not seem to hold on to all of them.

The experience was exhilarating because for the first time, I saw my likeness in the textbooks. Taking classes in Caribbean and African-American literature was life-changing. I knew for sure then that success was possible for me.

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I was so overwhelmed with all the different and interesting classes that I did not take advantage of the people resources at my disposal. Looking back, it would have been eye-opening to sit down and talk to all these professors who are experts in their fields. Now, there is no way of knowing how their insights would have influence the trajectory of my life.

One of the hurdles people often complain about concerning their personal growth is a lack of knowledge. Often, they claim they do not have enough and do not know where to get some.

Do you have a phone? Do you have access to the internet? Do you have access to a computer?

When was the last time you use your local library? It amazes me how libraries are bending over backward to serve you knowledge. They can deliver to your doorstep almost any resource you may need. You can conduct research and listen to audio books or music CDs right on their websites.

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So, there is no excuse. You want knowledge, go get it. You cannot attempt to comprehend how to effectively use knowledge before you possess it. That is why it is important to have a personal growth plan. All of learning does not have to be via the trial by error approach where life teaches you at random.

You will not be able to predict what you will learn because you have no clue what you are after. Know this, having a personal development plan helps to clear your vision and helps you to be intentional about your future.

For example, if time management is problematic for you, there are books, workshops, seminars, calendars, and systems out there to help you maintain the discipline to keep going.

Knowledge is everywhere, you must invest in yourself if you want your world to expand. Everything you need to create a personal growth plan and to exercise that plan is available to you. Go get it!

Personal Growth Does NOT Happen Automatically

When I came to this country, I was determined to be the best that I can be. The reality was that the pressure to better was expected in my family, because they depended on my success for a better future. It worked out well because I naturally had the passion for learning and growing.

When you are learning and doing in your third language, you must be intentional about everything. From elementary school to college, participated in every learning opportunity accessible to me.

I love books, so I started reading for pleasure. Then I learned that if I wanted my life to change, I had to give the historical romance novels up for biographies, business, and self-help books.

I joined organizations that would put me in the path of those who knew more than me and can help get me to the next level.

You see personal growth is never an accident; it requires deliberate action to reach your target.

Power Your Potential

My husband loves watches.

Over the years, we have brought quite a few of them. Most of the watches we have in our collection require batteries in order for the watches to function properly. When the batteries expire, my husband would change them himself.

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But life got in the way and frustration set in, so the wide ranges of watches – Seiko, Invicta, Movado, and others were left for a long time, perhaps between three to five years in the jewelry box waiting for the day to once again tap into their potentials.

Potential, that’s a loaded word. It speaks of the wonders that are possible in our lives and the optimistic hope that we can be more than the eye can see. Potential promises possibilities for peak performance. It implies that success and greatness are for the taking only if you would tap into what is already in your possession.

So for my husband’s birthday, I decided to make one simple decision to help the watches once again tap into their potential and to do what they do best–tell the time. I took a total of ten of them to a repair shop and for just $75 and less than 24 hours, the watches were once again doing what they were designed to do.

We are very similar to these watches. Life can often get in the way of us fulfilling our potential, what we were designed to do. Know this, despite the fact that you have put your potential on hold does not mean that it is no longer working or functionable. Your potential is there waiting for you to power it up in order for you to succeed and develop that greatness that has been dormant inside of you for so long.

How can you power your potential now to radically change your life from moment-to-moment?

Share the small steps you are taking.

BECOMING

BECOMING is a process…every minute decision adds up to make who you will be, what you will do, how you will do it, and who will be impacted tomorrow.

Slow and Steady Wins the Race

Keep Going

Keep Strong

Keep Steady

Keep Winning

Dr. Guerline Jasmin

Dream “BIG” Where You Are

Dreaming big is being the best version of myself.

Dr. Guerline Jasmin

We often hear DREAM BIG from those who expect more from us.

Dreaming big always sounds like the right thing to do. It is the thing that brave and courageous people do. It sounds like the path to noble pursuits, the path to changing not only one’s life, but the path to changing the world.

However, the word “BIG” is usually undefined and lacks context. Therefore, it can create hazy visions for those pursuing success or those seeking to make small changes in their lives.

Realize that we are all in different places in our lives. Dreaming big means different things to each and every one of us. For you, dreaming big may be to pay the bills on time this year. For another, it may be to go back to school and finish that degree.

That is why it is so important to dream where you are. You are the only one who can define what big means to you.

For me, dreaming big is being the best version of myself. Here, the goal is not to change the world, but in becoming a better person, I am creating a better world for those I have the privilege to touch.

Do Your Own Work


Before we can change our current trajectory, we must own the path that is set before us. That is to do the work that only we can do.

Dr. Guerline Jasmin

January is a month of second, third, fourth, or even a thousand chance of starting over. We seek to claim control over our lives to make it what we dream of it becoming. But, many times we find ourselves in a bit of conundrum. People have all sorts of ideas of what our lives should be and their holds on our lives act as weights to keep us down. We tend to listen to their words rather than what we know to be true and good for us.

Clairity is important to make a move towards changing our lives. We must be confident in knowing that we have chosen the right path even though it is sure to change along the way. When we allow people to make decisions for us, it will be difficult for us to be vested or totally committed in achieving the end result. Before we can change our current trajectory, we must own the path that is set before us. That is to do the work that only we can do.