I have always dreamed about being more than a mom and a wife.
Don’t get me wrong. Being a mom and a wife are both wonderful and beautiful things. I should know because I have six children.
Even Michelle Obama in her book Becoming expresses the same sentiment in its last section “Becoming More.”
Perhaps, one reason for this is because I have seen women reduced and restricted to these roles and never to reach away from them in the most sacred of places.
Another reason for wanting to become more is because I want my kids to be proud to say, “That’s my mom.”
I crave to be that example of what I have been teaching them over the years – be the best that you can be.
As you can imagine, parenting six children who are now between the ages of 12 and 22 provides many opportunities for life to get in the way.
Recently, the oldest started having seizures that gets in the way of life. Her employer recently released her because they insisted that she is a liability.
Therefore, she is unable to keep a job because she does not know when she will suffer an another attack. There seems to no end to this since all medical tests neglect to find a cause for her condition.
The two following her are figuring out the challenge of college life and they are trying the best they can to prepare for a bright future
My husband is battling his own medical problems that may have a significant impact on the quality of the rest of his life.
Oh, did I mentioned that one of our cars caught on fire this morning?
Its batteries have been losing charge for a few months now and we have not been able to determine why that is so.
In the middle of all this, I am trying to carve a small space just for myself to become more, so I can not only have more to give them but to also make my impact the way only I can.
These are just the big stuff; the little things do not stand a chance.
However, it is in the little things that we do every day we find sustainance when life insists that becoming more is not an option.
After all, where is the time?
When you feel stuck between who you are and who you want to become, that is a significant time to take immediate action to bridging that gap.
Here are a five tips to help you move swiftly between the gaps:
1. Remember Your Purpose – It will be a guide when the life gets blurry and uncertain.
2. Cherish The Moments – Make time to reflect in to see the lessons in each moment.
3. Let Curiosity Fuel Your Creativity – With all the unknowns in our lives, grab on to curiosity instead of fear, and the journey will be so much more exciting.
4. Laugh for No Reason at All – Laughing is good medicine even if it’s for no reason. Laughing will add life to your years.
5. Take Small Steps – The goal is to keep moving in the right direction, but sometimes, we have the tendency to neglect taking small steps in the challenging times of our lives.
We cannot control life from happening and from getting in our way, but we can control our perspectives and reactions to these events. If you have a clear sense of your purpose in every moment of your life, it is hard not to be curious about the possibilities that are just around the corner. It’s hard to get stuck when you are taking small steps and consistent action in bridging the gap between who you are and who you are becoming.
Call to Action
To avoid getting stuck when life gets in the way, download the first three chapters of my latest book, Becoming a Conqueror: How to Keep the Past from Invading Your Present and Destroying Your Future. Be empowered on your journey of becoming more.
Dr. GeGe Jasmin is a woman leadership coach, who helps women go from simply existing to truly living. Please email her at firstname.lastname@example.org to schedule her for your next event or to schedule your breakthrough call. For more information, visit her website at www.drgege.com