Are You Mentally Strong?

Executives, entrepreneurs, and leaders from all businesses have been primarily concerned with physical health, but now they are learning that mental strength and health is even more important. As leaders we always encourage our people not to give up, to be optimistic, to tenaciously persevere until the desired result is reached. We can also identify mentally strong people by what they refuse to do. Following is a list of put together by a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist Amy Morin. I am sharing her list with you along with my thoughts on how you can apply them to your everyday reality.

  1. Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves. Life is not fair. Bad things happen to good people. Mentally strong people have this keen sense of awareness concerning this very subject. Therefore, they do not spend their precious time throwing pity parties because their circumstances are not what it ought to be. Mentally strong people take responsibility for all that happens in their life without playing the blaming game. Most importantly, they don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves for they have dissected that experience, learned from it, and decided that they are stronger having been through it. Now, they have resources to help them when the next unpleasant situation comes their way.
  2. Give Away Their Power. Have you ever been told that you cannot do something when you know full well that you are more than capable? Did you give in or did you stand up for yourself? Mentally strong people are very aware of their power. They know that they are in the driver’s seat when it comes to others’ intent on making them feel inferior. They know that how they respond to certain situations is the key to keeping their power rather than giving it away to those who have less than good in mind.
  3. Shy Away from Change. So many work hard at escaping change and feel at home in their comfort zones. Not the mentally strong. They welcome change and all that comes with it. They thrive on change knowing that if they do not change then they are not growing. Change becomes a mental work out for the mentally strong providing opportunities for creative and challenging work and play.
  4. Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control. Have you ever been caught in a traffic jam? Have you ever had a flight cancelled? These things are out of our hands—they are out of our control. As a result, mentally strong people do not spend any of their valuable time throwing a fit about them. They acknowledge that the only thing that they can do is control how they respond to such situations.
  5. Worry About Pleasing Others. Many people struggle in this area. The people pleasers go out of their way to please others while being unpleasant to themselves. Mentally strong people behave differently. They treat people with respect, kindness, and fairness. They do not please others at their expense and they are not afraid to speak up. They understand how to navigate through difficult situations gracefully.
  6. Fear Taking Calculated Risks. What is life without risk? Risk makes everything interesting. The risk that is researched, studied, well-thought out are calculated risks. Mentally strong people welcome those risks, they know what they stand to benefit, and are ready to handle the worst-case scenario.
  7. Dwell on the Past. The best is yet to come. It does not matter if you had the best life. It does not matter if you had the worst life. What counts is today. Mentally strong people learn from the past and avoid getting stuck there. Instead of dwelling on the past, they spend their time and energy in creating the future that they desire.
  8. Makes the Same Mistakes Over and Over. If you do what you’ve always done, you will get what you’ve always gotten. We can’t expect to keep doing the same thing over and over again and expect to get a different result. That is insanity. Mentally strong people do not get caught up in these dire situations. They take responsibility for the past and learn as much as they can from it. Successful executives, entrepreneurs, and leaders reflect on their pasts to learn, grow, and become more productive.
  9. Resent Other People’s Success. Who makes up your circle of influence? People who are more successful than you or those that are less successful than you are? Mentally strong people admire those who are more successful than they are. They have no place for jealousy and resentment. However, they are ready to learn from their more successful peers lessons that will help them create their own success.
  10. Give Up After Failure. Failure is the gateway to success. We have to be willing to fail time and time again as long as these failures bridge that gap between where we are and where we want to be. Mentally strong people recognize the value in failing that is why they repeat it more often than not. They recognize that if they are failing that means they are proactively working to accomplish their goals.
  11. Fear Time Alone. Some people fear the thought of spending time alone. However, the mentally strong cherish such a time. It is a time to reflect on things that they have done right as well as thing they can improve on. It is a time to review their plans and make adjustments. It is a time to be creative and productive. The key is they are responsible for their own happiness. They welcome the company of others but they do not demand it.
  12. Feel the World Owes Them Anything. Executives, entrepreneurs, and employees everywhere have learned especially in this economy that the world does not owe them anything. They are certainly grateful to have a paycheck. Therefore, they know that they have to be thoroughly prepared to succeed in such a competitive market.
  13. Expect Immediate Results. Are you in it for the long haul? No matter what the goal is whether or not it is starting a new business, writing a book, or starting an exercise program, mentally strong people are in it until they have achieve the desired result. They understand that anything worthwhile takes time. Change is not easy; therefore, they practice their “staying power” to get the results that they expect.
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