What a wonderful blessing it is to have friends who truly listen when we speak; they stay in the present with us and value what we have to say. It is also quite invigorating to have friends who accepts us unconditionally; they know what they can get from us and what they would be crazy to ask for. In this way, we do not have to stress each other out by demanding things that are not in our skill set to give. That brings me to the fifth tip for attracting and developing lasting friendships.
5. Be a Significance Disseminator
Every single person in this world is seeking to be significant to someone, to a cause, or to a community. That is how we deride our meaning, zest, and passion for life. So, make it a point to impart significance. Help make people feel that they matter and they have something special to contribute to this world in this very time that we are living that may transcend their time here on earth. In Romans 12:10, Paul declares that we “Honor one another above yourselves.” People are looking for others to lift them up. The research is clear here as well. We only need ONE person to believe in us to help us accomplish great things. So make it your business to notice and to give a word of encouragement. Be a significance disseminator.
6. Be a Peacemaker
We all love to have peace in our homes, schools, work, churches, and communities. How do we get peace? Does it happen all by itself? No, to have peace we must actively make it happen—we must get involve and actively look to resolve conflicts that are around us. “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.” That is according to Matthew 5:9. We are aware of certain people in our lives that thrive on turning people against each other, and who uses harsh, hurtful, and damaging words. They thrive on conflict and they will do anything to see a fight. Stay away from them and seek those who have healing and peaceful words. Let’s be mindful of the words we use because they have the power of life and death.
- Be a Lover of People
“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins” (I Peter 4:8). What an amazing verse. When we practice love, our buckets are never empty; it is a well that keeps on giving. When we love, we care deeply. When we love, we forgive often and quickly. When we love, we share with each. When we love, we practice patience and kindness on a daily basis. When we love, we stand up for others and protect them the best way we know how. When we love, there is no such thing as giving up knowing that there is nothing that is too big, too tall, too strong, or too weak that love cannot conquer.