HOW ACHIEVING GREAT SUCCESS TOO FAST CAN RUIN YOU

We all want to achieve our biggest goals?

The question is “are you ready for the impact?” I am referring to the impact of #success. If you don’t have your life in basic order, you will be rocked to very foundation.

Lottery winners come to mind right now. About 70 percent of them go bankrupt within five years. I know that gambling to win the lottery is not a worthy goal…at least not for me.

But, what about the #goals you have invested so much time and money in?

It should always be a joy when we get on the other side of our goals, but we take the risk of minimizing or totally eliminating our impact when we are not ready.

  1. If we don’t build our house upon a rock, our rewards will be short-lived.
  2. We may still feel dissatisfied after achieving the goal, because it may have been the wrong goal all along.

No need to be dismay. Take time to assess your life and make sure you’re setting the right foundation. The beauty of setting goals is that they are always flexible.

It takes time to get clarity of our life #vision and now I work with others to help them do the work to activate, create, and execute their dreams in life and in their businesses.

HOW DOES YOUR “HUNGRY” SHOW?

My husband and I coach and manage a U16 (under 16) soccer team, since our son is in love with the game. We use this opportunity not only to help our son grow technically and physically, but also as a mission field, to cultivate in him a heart for others.

The majority of our players are from low income households. Their parents are not able to take them to practice or to contribute financially.

We stepped up to give a few of these young boys something constructive to do as well as a safe environment to be in even if it is just for a few hours per week.

We chose our players based on a few simple questions:

  1. Do you want to play?
  2. Will you show up to every practice?
  3. Will you do everything necessary to win?

We are investing a lot of time and money, so we wanted to be good stewards. We also know that “you can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make him drink it.” So, we wanted to see #vision and #drive.

Needless to say the kids who answer “whenever I can,” to will you show up to every practice did not make the team.

Are you really hungry for #success? How does that hunger show in your everyday language and practice?

Follow me at the #thevisionwhisperer for more tips on how to cultivate that hunger and drive for success.

 

#motivation #personaldevelopment #leadershipdevelopment

I’m a Little Scared Right Now

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Success is risky, but the rewards are huge.

Never before have I been so scared and excited of my goals and dreams – all at the same time. That’s how I know, I am dreaming big. If you have nothing to lose and it is not a must for you to make it, then your dream is not big enough.

3 Pitfalls to Exercising Your Power

We all want to feel powerful – that we are making the best out of what we have been given in this life. But at times, we act as if we are powerless to positively influence our own lives.

We are quick to uplift others and even quicker to talk down to ourselves. As you work on exercising your power, keep these pitfalls away and give yourself the best chance to achieve your potential.

  1. Muddy Values – It is said that if you don’t know what you stand for, your will fall for anything. Know what’s important to you and what you stand for. Who you are must not depend on what people think of you.
  2. Blame – blaming others for your situation or your lack of success is a trap. Change starts with you. Take full responsibility to change your own life.
  3. Lack of Forgiveness – Do you harbor guilt, grudges, or malice? If you do, you are digging a grave for yourself. Forgiveness is a daily practice and it helps you to be free and start life anew.

You Are Equipped with Powers

In our family, we love “The Incredibles!”

The idea of a family working together to protect and solve the world’s problems is appealing to all of us.

Apart from their every day lives, they have something more to offer the world. They have special powers. The most interesting thing is that they had nothing to do with it. They were born with it and their creator decided the specificity of each of their powers.

Just like them, you were born with special powers. You are equipped to handle all the ups and downs, brokenness and completeness, success or failure, sickness and health, as well as life and death.

You did not ask for them, but God has equipped you with the powers you need to live your life. It is up to you to discover your powers and use them. Regardless of what you decide to do, you are a powerful person who can make a difference wherever you are.

The Comparison Trap

Your neighbor is driving the car of your dreams. Your friends are always conveniently sharing the latest restaurants they have dined in. Your coworker is yet again taking a week vacation to visit the next island on her bucket list. Wow! These pictures of these beautiful people on social media looking so fabulous and ecstatic in their relationships can leave you dissatisfied with your own reality.

You do not care for facts, that has been proven with countless research, but you have to realize that the perceived social media reality: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Tumbler, you name it…social media… is conveying distinctly one’s hallucinations about who she wants to portray to her circle of influence and the world. There is no way you can account for the truth in these portrayals. Nor should you care.

Why You Compare

What is it with you…feeling better about yourself and your situation only when you can find those who are doing worse than you. Take this, real estate professionals suggest that people seek an expensive community and buy the smallest house there because it will appreciate tremendously faster than the biggest house on the block. But, that does not make people feel good, so, they buy the biggest house in a less expensive and downward neighborhood because it makes them feel good and happy.

You like to compare down because you want to feel as if you are doing something right. When you compare up with someone who you think is doing better than you or looking at a more upscale community than your own, you tend to feel unhappy and dissatisfied. You might believe that these people who seem better than you are keeping a secret from you. How come they have more money than you. Why do they wear better clothes? How can they afford this or that? You work harder than they do.

Unrealized Goals

You compare yourself with others because what they remind you of the unrealized goals in your life. You had a plan three years ago to upgrade from renting an apartment to buying a house. Life happens, so you are still renting while all your friends seem to be buying beautiful houses right before your eyes. So, you may think that the universe is on their sides and not yours. Perhaps, they have better jobs and more money than you. You let these things get you down not understanding that your are projecting…you are overestimating what people may have and underestimating what you can do to realize your goals.

Flawed Perception

Another reason why comparing yourself with others is not positively productive is because you have a flawed perception. You assume too much. You assume that your neighbor can afford your dream car because he has more more money than you. He may be eating can beans for breakfast, lunch, and dinner to be able to afford the payments for that car. Maybe his car is the only thing in his life that makes him feel significant for the moment. So, keep in mind that all of these things you assume about the person who might be doing better than you is a concoction of your imagination to justify why you are not in a better situation or have more expensive things. Know this, your assumption is not the truth.

Lack of Gratitude

Dissatisfaction in life can be a good thing; it can help you get motivated to take action towards changing your life. It is an energy that can be utilized to create the life you want. It becomes negative energy when it is derived from comparing yourself with others. You have more than you can ever use in this life. Why don’t you count your blessings when you feel like taking a turn at comparison road. Say out loud what you are thankful for. Write a list of things that makes you smile. Keep a gratitude journal and record the things that keep you ground, happy, and joyful. These activities will help you focus on your blessedness not other people’s things.

Finally, research has shown acquiring things only keeps you happy for a moment, because once you achieve a goal, it no longer seems important. The next goal is just around the corner. That is why you should spend more time investing in your growth and development rather than on comparing yourself to others.

3 Ways to Help Teachers Flourish in the Classroom

Year after year, we see teachers striking around the country – West Virginia, Oklahoma, Arizona, Kentucky, and now Los Angeles, where tens of thousands walked out of the classroom to protest their large class sizes, low salaries, and lack of supporting staff. Right here in Florida, there continues to be a teacher shortage impacting the quality and effectiveness of education students are receiving in the classroom.

No one challenges the point that teachers should get paid more, but no one is willing to act to make it so, no one is willing to put the “money where the mouth is– not the national, state, and local representatives. Yet, we want all students to succeed, not one to be left behind. How can this be, when teachers themselves are constantly left behind with limited power to influence their own professional growth and economic security? What quality of education do you think students will get when teachers cannot pay the bills at home? When they have to work second jobs?

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So, teachers leave the field and too many classrooms have to settle for what they can get, a body in the classroom with hardly any experience on the subject, classroom management, lesson planning, and how students learn. On the national level, schools have lost over 100,000 teachers and supporting personnel while the number of students increased by over one million. Despite the lack of adequate compensation for what they do, teachers leave the classroom for other compounding reasons such as lack of personal growth opportunities, collaboration with other teachers, and the stressful classroom environment.

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For teachers to flourish in the classroom, these things have to be addressed:

  1. Treat them with dignity and show them respect – I do not know when the teaching profession gained the negative perception that it now has. Perhaps, it has to do with all the teacher strikes over the years or the recent public classroom videos on teacher and student conflicts. It might also be the myriad of school shootings that took the lives of many students, teachers, and staff. Why do people automatically feel sorry for and pity a person who is a teacher? “Bless your heart,” “You poor soul,” or “I would not want to be in your shoes.” These are some of the most common ways people respond to a teacher. To help teachers flourish in the classroom and in the teaching profession, they must be treated with dignity and respect. Their work is a worthy one and it should be treated as such.
  2. Give them opportunities to grow professionally – teacher growth and the education system seems to be a great paradox. The science, English, math, social study, music, art, business teacher should study at the highest level. Teachers should be experts in their fields and when they are compensated for their expertise, that would revolutionize the education system. The education system must encourage teachers to be experts in their respective fields to increase the quality of education that students are receiving. What we see in the classroom oftentimes, are teachers who do not study the subject they teach and may take years on their own, if they are motivated to be an effective teacher. To flourish, teachers must have opportunities not only to participate in formal education but also non-formal education such as teacher collaborations, workshops and subject-specific conferences.
  3. Provide them a positive work environment – a negative, stressful, and conflicting work environment are at the core of why teachers leave the classroom. Yes, teachers deserve to get paid as well any doctor, but the reason they leave the classroom is not usually about salary. They leave because students are disrespectful and the classroom is often a war zone that even the school administration does not have an answer for. They leave because they teach too many classes and must take work home daily if assignments are to be graded. They leave because teaching is a stressful job that affects one’s overall health and what happens at home after work. For teachers to flourish, schools must provide a positive environment that supports the work they are doing in the classroom

Paying teachers what they deserve would be a great start not only to keep the ones already in the classroom, but also to attract potentially great ones. There must also be opportunities for them to become better every day at what they do, alongside a positive work environment that supports them to help students succeed not only in the classroom, but also in their life experiences.

There Will Never Be a Right Time

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Right about now your new year’s resolutions are starting to look less interesting. It’s been two weeks and life is settling in as normal and that burst of energy you felt for change at the end of 2018 is slowing down.

One thing is for sure. Time is not slowing down. It stops for no one. Whether you feel like acting on improving your life is irrelevant to time. Time will continue to do what it does best…keep going.

Are you waiting for the right time to act on your goals? Are you waiting to be motivated to start taking action?

We have the tendency to act slowly when we must get something done. The problem is the longer we take to act, the likelihood of us doing it diminishes greatly.

Now is the time to start growing.

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We will never be ready in our minds to tackle life, so just do it and you will have a greater understanding of how to get better.

The truth is we are robbing ourselves of what life has to offer when we want to wait for the right time.

As a beginning real estate investor years ago, I paid dearly for neglecting to act when the market screamed financial crisis. Rental income greatly diminished, debt quickly accumulated, and instead of selling to recoup what I could, I held on to foreclosure.

I waited for the right time to sell and it never came. The dumbest decision of my real estate investing experience.

So, do not wait until the situation gets worst, start now.