I Am Everything Because of Love

It was just an ordinary afternoon, a time when bank employees continue to service their customers with their account-related issues. That afternoon, tragedy struck at a SunTrust Bank where at least five died: four employees and one customer. As of now, law enforcement does know the reason behind this atrocity.

When my husband texted to tell me about the bank shooting, I was beside myself. “Are you okay? Is everybody okay? Can I call you?”

I did not wait for an answer, I called him right away to learn that it was not his bank, but one that was about forty-five minutes away from him, in Sebring, Florida. I am relieved and thankful that the shooting did not take place at his branch, but my heart continues to hurt for his colleagues and their families.

This is yet another shooting eating away our sense of safety. These shootings are hitting closer and closer to home. Last year, one shooting took place at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida where my stepdaughter’s senior year was devastated with the loss of seventeen lives. The SunTrust shooter is just twenty-one years old and the Marjory Stoneman Douglas shooter was nineteen years old at the time of the shooting.

What drove these young people to commit such crimes? Does a lack of love have anything to do with it?

I am everything because of love. The love of God, the love of my husband, the love of my children, and the love of my extended family make life worth living. The thought of losing them in any tragedy troubles my heart.

But, by now I know that there is absolutely nothing I can do to protect them from such tragedy. How can you protect people who are doing what they are supposed to do? Shouldn’t they be safe at work? Should they be safe at school? Shouldn’t they be safe at church?

What I know for sure is that only God can protect them. I surrender them to him. I also know that loving them with all my heart and with with both my hands is the only way I can reinvest in them. Love covers all. Love cures everything.

Happiness Habit 3: Be Generous

Becoming a happy person is not as difficult as it appears. It can actually be fun if you enjoy being generous. That is giving and sharing freely without expecting anything in return.

Our happiness is affected when we keep count of what we give. We expect people to return to us equal or greater to what we have given to them.

What we need to be concerned with is planting the seed of generosity and let God be responsible for the returning aspect of giving.

Here are 10 things you can give generously today.

  1. Say please and thank you.
  2. Give compliments often.Generosity 1
  3. Give your money to people and causes you believe in.
  4. Give your time generously where it matters most.
  5. Have a big heart and be compassionate.
  6. Share all resources generously.
  7. Forgive each fellow human at least 77 x 7.
  8. Give plenty of hugs and kisses.
  9. Lend your ears without passing judgement.
  10. Love covers it all.

Building or Destroying: What’s In It For Me?

BefPower of Words 2ore you let a single word come out of your mouth, you better be real careful; you may not know what you’re getting yourself into.

You see, words are seeds. Words are powerful. They have the tendency to multiply and reproduce according to their likeness.

You have the choice to plant them in grounds that will…

  • BUILD

             OR

  • DESTROY

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You understand that your tongue, the instrument that facilitate the speaking of words has the power of life and death.

If you’ve ever wanted to be a superhero, this is the ultimate opportunity. It is also the ultimate opportunity to become the greatest villain.

Read this carefully. “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” In other words, you reap what you sow.

If you sow words of love, you will get love in return.

If you sow words of hatred, you will harvest hate.

If you inspire, you too will be inspired.

If you belittle and humiliate, what do you think you will get back?

So, what’s in it for you?

The quality of your life. What do you want to get more of?

 

7 Simple Keys to Help You Enjoy Work Every Day Part II

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Work is what you make it. Our attitude determines whether or it work is going to be a place of many blessings or a place of many curses. Understand that what we focus on expand, what we invest in grow, and what we plant, we harvest. Therefore, we must intend to focus on, invest in, and plant the specific benefits we want to enjoy

2. Work hard and cheerfully at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people.” Colossians 3:23

When we understand that we are working not to please people but the Lord, we develop a different perspective toward our place of employment. Any job that we do can become a form of worship, giving thanks for being able to contribute to society by serving others.

3. Develop a new way of thinking about work.

When we develop a new way of thinking about work, we will realize that work is one of the most important places in our lives where we can focus on building our character. It is a place where we can take on tasks and projects to help us test out what we really enjoy doing. Adding on a new skill and learning more about ourselves can be strategic tools for career advancement or change.

4. “Whatever you do, do it with kindness and love”.I Corinthians 16:14

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Everything we do is about people. We cannot escape not working with them one way or another. We are here to serve each other, which is at the core of our existence here on earth. So, loving the people we work with is a tremendous opportunity to share our love and to treat them with kindness. In return, we will enjoy a more pleasant work environment.

5. “If anyone requires you to go one mile, go two miles with him.” Matthew 5:41

When we value and enjoy our work, we make it a point to do more than what is expected of us. We don’t have to be asked. Success does not only come with caring for people. It also comes through proving how valuable we are to the company. So, it should be our intention to exceed expectation as often as possible.

6. If the ax is dull and its edge unsharpened, more strength is needed but skill will bring success. Ecclesiastes 10:10

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“If you want to get ahead, you must fill your head.” Decide to make continual learning part of your every life. Working on improving skills that can potentially help to gain a promotion or an increase in pay can be worthwhile. In this way, we will not have to apply much strength to bring success to our lives.

7. “Commit your work to the Lord, and then your plans will succeed. Proverbs 16:3

It is good to know that we’re never on our own. Our work may be difficult or it may be easy. It does not matter what issues we may be facing at work, knowing who we are working for makes a very big difference. Putting everything in God’s hand is a sure way to grow and achieve success.

7 Simple Keys to Help You Enjoy Work Every Day Part I

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Work is a place the majority of us spend most of our waking hours either loving every minute of it or killing ourselves slowly. It is a place that provides many opportunities to build character, to learn new skills, and to discover the phenomenon of working with others. Above all, that seems to be the hardest part of working.

I don’t know about you but I would rather love every minute of my work than to allow it to ever placidly suck the life out of me. You can begin to incorporate a few simple steps in your daily habits to help you make the most out of work. Here are seven simple keys that can help transform your working life from a boring and insignificant one to an enjoyable and important one.

1. “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart.” Colossians 3:23

Being in the present is a great thing, that includes being enthusiastic about the work you are doing right now. So, WHATEVER you do –making a presentation, taking out the garbage, answering phones, writing the needed reports –put your entire heart (100% +) into it.

Every job is a preparation for the next job. It is an opportunity to develop you in ways you may not be aware of. Luke 16:10-12 states, “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much…If you have not been trustworthy with someone else’s property, who will give you property of your own.”

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It is helpful to keep in mind that is a test of not only your skills but your attitude as well. Your attitude towards life and your work in particular determines your level of enjoyment. A negative attitude that encourages continuous griping and complaining does not facilitate the creation of joyful moments.

Proverbs 12:24 provides that the “diligent find freedom in their work; the lazy are oppressed by work.” One of the ways to facilitate enjoyment in our work is to determine to add value to the organization, its people, and its daily mission. When you feel that you are making a difference, it does something inside you–it makes you feel needed and significant.

You are needed. You are important. You are significant. That is why your work cannot be haphazardly put together. That is why your work cannot remain undone.

So, let’s show some enthusiasm.

When Was the Last Time You Saw a Fish Climbing a Tree?

The fish does not climb a tree because it was not created to climb a tree. It has its special intelligence that equips it to navigate its environment with ease. The water environment and the skills necessary to thrive there is empowering not self-defeating.

So, why do we belittle ourselves and hinder our progress on the basis that we are not intelligent enough. Let’s be reminded that “God does not create junk.” The problem occurs when we place ourselves in the wrong environment and engage outside of our skill set.

We don’t have to spend our lives thinking that we’re stupid simply because we are in the wrong environment, doing something we are not prepared to do.

Remember, we have the potential to learn and become better at anything we put our minds to. According to Merriam-Webster, intelligence is defined as the ability to learn or understand or to deal with difficult situations.

Some people naturally possesses or are drawn to a specific type of work. That is wonderful. That does not in any way diminish our ability to learn that type of work or skill.

Einstein says it best, the measure of our intelligence has very little to do with where we are right now. Our ability and our flexibility to change makes all the difference.

We can improve our intelligence on a daily basis by:

  • Reading widely
  • Take a workshop or a seminar 
  • Spend time with people we want to learn from
  • Take daily action toward change
  • Feed our minds everyday
  • Be nice to ourselves–often

So don’t decline that promotion, we will be surprise to see that we know more than we think we know. Knowing that there is nothing new under the sun, we can find people and resources to help us no matter what we may face.

Attracting and Developing Lasting Friendships Part II

What a wonderful blessing it is to have friends who truly listen when we speak; they stay in the present with us and value what we have to say.  It is also quite invigorating to have friends who accepts us unconditionally; they know what they can get from us and what they would be crazy to ask for. In this way, we do not have to stress each other out by demanding things that are not in our skill set to give. That brings me to the fifth tip for attracting and developing lasting friendships.

5. Be a Significance Disseminator

Every single person in this world is seeking to be significant to someone, to a cause, or to a community. That is how we deride our meaning, zest, and passion for life. So, make it a point to impart significance. Help make people feel that they matter and they have something special to contribute to this world in this very time that we are living that may transcend their time here on earth. In Romans 12:10, Paul declares that we “Honor one another above yourselves.” People are looking for others to lift them up. The research is clear here as well. We only need ONE person to believe in us to help us accomplish great things. So make it your business to notice and to give a word of encouragement. Be a significance disseminator.

6. Be a Peacemaker­­­­­­­­­

We all love to have peace in our homes, schools, work, churches, and communities. How do we get peace? Does it happen all by itself? No, to have peace we must actively make it happen—we must get involve and actively look to resolve conflicts that are around us. “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.” That is according to Matthew 5:9. We are aware of certain people in our lives that thrive on turning people against each other, and who uses harsh, hurtful, and damaging words. They thrive on conflict and they will do anything to see a fight. Stay away from them and seek those who have healing and peaceful words. Let’s be mindful of the words we use because they have the power of life and death.­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­

  1. Be a Lover of People

“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins” (I Peter 4:8). What an amazing verse. When we practice love, our buckets are never empty; it is a well that keeps on giving. When we love, we care deeply. When we love, we forgive often and quickly. When we love, we share with each. When we love, we practice patience and kindness on a daily basis. When we love, we stand up for others and protect them the best way we know how. When we love, there is no such thing as giving up knowing that there is nothing that is too big, too tall, too strong, or too weak that love cannot conquer.

Word of the Day

I sought the Lord

and required Him,

and He heard me,

and delivered me

from all my fears.

Psalm 34:4

The Love of God

May the love of God settles to the bottom of your heart, reverberates throughout your whole body, and be released into the world. May the God of the universe continues to change lives everywhere through this love. Amen.

He Came

“People do what matters to them. If you mattered to them, they would have been here.”

I cannot count the many times these words have violated my ears. The feeling that overwhelms me every time is that of rejection. The essence is no one cares and I do not matter.

What a debilitating feeling this can be. Do not believe it. Do not put your trust in feelings.

I am here to tell you that feelings lie.

Because you matter—Jesus says you matter. You matter enough for Him to come and be born a human in order to know what it feels like to be rejected. He came to give you the greatest gift—the gift of salvation.

So, when no one shows up; you matter because He is always with you.

He came to show you how much you mean to him. Let’s study and get to know His indescribable gift this Christmas day. Through this gift

  • You will never have to be separated from Him.
  • You can trust him to be merciful.
  • You can cultivate a growing relationship with God.
  • You have the Holy Spirit to empower you to do God’s will (John 14:26)

 

Dr. G