As we dig deep into our goals this year, this is the time that we look around us to see and briefly study the people surrounding us. If we intend to accomplish anything significant, we must have the right people in our corners. These people are usually our closest friends. Since we spend much time with our friends, they have the tendency to rub off on us, influence our thinking, and behaviors. So, consider the following types of friends and determine how your friends measure up.
- Lazy Friends
Hard work is a foreign concept to these people. What they work hard on is not working and feed on anything that they can get for free—that means things you have paid for. If they have a job, they work on doing as little as possible. Second Thessalonians urge us to keep away from “all believers who are living a lazy life.” Lazy people are usually takers not givers, so they are less equipped to help you reach your goals.
- Angry Friends
“Don’t make friends with people who have hot, violent tempers. You might learn their habits and not be able to change” (Proverbs 22:24-25). How incredible is that? Angry people influence your life in a way that robs you of your destiny. Their influence is so strong that you may never break away from them.
- Immoral Friends
It is task to process all the images and messages that bombards us on a daily basis, why in the world would we choose to be around a person who lives a double life? They claim to be one thing, when they are actually another. First Corinthians 5:10 urges us to “not associate with a person who calls himself a believer but is immoral or greedy or worships idols or is a slanderer or a drunkard or a thief.”
- Greedy Friends
Every relationship allows each party to give and take. There is a constant exchange to ideas and resources of many forms. If a party habitually demands exorbitantly from the other, but refuses to replenish or reciprocate, the relationship will eventually die. Let’s not partake in friendship with people who are always keeping score of what is given. Proverbs 23:6-7 admonishes that “for he is the kind of man who is always counting the cost…his heart is not with you.”
- Unbelieving Friends
There is power in numbers. When two people agree to do something together, very little can stop them. They become even more powerful when they have the same mind and share the same belief. Second Corinthians 6:14 commands “Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers.” There will be little to no progress in your growth because you will be going against the current.