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Happiness Habit 5: Be Merciful

If you want to be happy, be kind to those in need;

it is a sin to despise anyone.

Proverbs 14:21 (TEV)

Do we wanHappiness in a box 1t to be happy?

We often answer this question without thinking about what it truly entails.Happiness is a way of life, it is not something we get out of a box. Therefore, it is a habit we must practice every day.

Practicing mercy provides ample opportunities to cultivate happiness Merciful 2in our lives.

Mercy is defined as the “compassion or forgiveness shown toward someone whom it is within one’s power to punish or harm.”

The world is a broken place; we are all constantly hurting each other. Where we get stuck is when we decide to take revenge into our own hands. We get stuck when we want to hold on to something that we should have let go of in the first place.

The result of that type of mindset is a revolving cycle of bitterness, negativity, and fruitlessness. You hurt me, so I find a way to hurt you even more. Then, you find a way to hurt me even more.

HReady 1ere are a few tips you can start practicing today to awaken the merciful part of you.

  1. Decrease your irritability level – don’t be quick to be impatient with people. Be mindful that there are certain things that may get on your nerves, but maybe a person’s natural tendency.
  2. Be ready to help – don’t turn a blind eye on the needs in your family, schools, churches, and communities.Happiness abounds in your everyday life when you are generous with everything you have.
  3. Give second chances – don’t be quick to cut people off without the effort of having a mutual resolution to problems. Making mistakes are huge components of the human life. So, be willing to forgive and show mercy to those who have wronged you.

Awareness …Part 1

 

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What is going on here? Why is this happening to me?

The world is fast when it comes to labeling  you as a victim when something bad happens to you. This is no different from what happens with those who have experienced a bad childhood.

So many people blame their parents for the disappointments and failures of their adult life! However, these same individuals have absolutely no awareness that in reality, their past is invading their present and destroying their future. It is not their parents fault what is happening today in the present, it is their own fault allowing the past to invade and affect their present.

Failure to connect the past with its impact on your negative and unproductive current thoughts and behaviors, results in repeating and expanding the cycle of pain. In an attempt to fix your past and alleviate the hurt and longing, you keep repeating the same bad habits over and over again, to no avail. Then you get frustrated and decide that life does not matter, so, why would you keep trying, right?

Life can seem too vast, and it may seem that one single person has no  chance of making a lasting impact on the world. We think that way and therefore, we accept defeat even before facing the challenge. We fill our days with activities which we tell ourselves that are valuable. We seek comfort in the trinkets and trappings of modern life, picking up things and accumulating a mountain of useless stuff. Stuff that we like to believe that define us and stuff for which we fiercely compete against each other to accumulate.

I remember being in that exact position. I felt ashamed. I felt dirty. I felt damaged. I felt overwhelmed. I felt that God did not want anything to do with me. I felt lonely. I felt used. I did not feel safe. I did not feel loved. The thought that permeated my mind was that I did not deserve to live. How could I ever look at people into their eyes?

All of a sudden, every person I came in  contact with knew that I had done something bad, something terrible, and I felt very embarrassed because of that. I secluded myself as much as possible to avoid this sad experience. I kept thinking the same thoughts and doing the same actions, not believing that I could have made the required choices to change my life and stand up to those negative thoughts at that precise moment…